Children

My nephew and I.

Neely from a Complete Waste of Makeup wrote a post today titled "Selfish" and proudly declared she doesn't want to have kids.

There was a time in my life I would have completely echoed her sentiments on this topic. There was even I time where I didn't believe in marriage and love- that is until one day that little thing called love punched me right in the face and no matter how much I denied it- it was there- and once genuine love takes place that whole "why do people even get married" thing started to make a lot more sense.

I've gone back and forth on my feelings of having children. I, like Neely and many other woman, are selfish. I need my "me" time and I don't want to share my husbands time and I can be stingy has hell when it comes to money. The hubs and I have been together 10 years now and we are use to our schedules, use to our lifestyle- a lifestyle we enjoy and we know that the introduction of kids would most definitely change that.

But it came down to this: I don't ever want to regret not having children. It's not a risk I am willing to take. It's a too big of a thing to have regrets on. I know this may not be the best reason for deciding to have children but I have never heard anyone say they regret their kids but I have heard of those that regret their decisions not to have them.

I often joke that I want to experience the being pregnant part and even the birthing part (I blame this on The Business of Being Born Documentary- it changed my whole view on giving birth) but after birth I wish I could then give them to someone else to raise until they are grown since I love the adult relationship I have with my siblings and mom. I love getting together for family dinners and planning a girls movie night out to drool over the Magic Mike boys. I can't wait to have that one day.

When I shared the above thought with my mom recently she made a great point- she said yeah but it was all the hard growing up and raising you stuff that has created the memories and bond that we have now... the challenges in life, the selflessness, the sacrifices, the heartache, stress, and worry makes everything about our family that much more sweeter and made us have the bond that we have today.

I'll be 28 this year and I am in no hurry to start busting out any babies anytime soon but what I do know is that having children and being a mom is not only an experience but also a challenge that I'd be lucky to have- one day.